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August 4th, 2015

A True Example of A Real Man

I’ve been reflecting on what makes a “real man” and the example of one recently in our lives. When my daughter, Raquel, was diagnosed with a terminal illness, she had not started dating boys yet. But there were a couple that she was friends with, that she would carry on conversations with via text on her phone. One of them in particular, she was texting in the hospital after her first surgery. I admit, I was curious about with whom she was conversing. I finally got the name of the young man, which was Morgan. She had been texting him for almost a year, and had hung out with him at a dance or two, and a school outing to an amusement park. A True Example of A Real Man - Raquel Morgan Ame 300x169 - A True Example of A Real Man I didn’t have the opportunity to meet this young man until after Raquel’s second hospitalization, which left her partially paralyzed on the left side of her face and throat. The occasion was her 16th birthday party, which he attended. It was great to finally put a name to the face, and he seemed to be very nice. A True Example of A Real Man - Morgan at Party 300x225 - A True Example of A Real Man After her party, Raquel got strong enough to go on her first date, which was with Morgan. They met at her best friend, Chloe’s house, and watched a movie with Chloe and her date. Raquel had a great time, and I was so happy for her to be able to have that experience. A True Example of A Real Man - Raquels First Date with Morgan Version 2 300x225 - A True Example of A Real Man After that, Raquel started spending more time with Morgan, and inviting him over to hang out at our house. They would often play games or watch movies together. A True Example of A Real Man - Collage Raquel Morgan 300x300 - A True Example of A Real Man My other children love Morgan, and considered him their personal jungle gym. They would climb all over him, and ride on his shoulders around the house. I worried that they would annoy the heck out of him, but he genuinely seemed to love playing with them, even when it got rough. He never said an unkind word to any of them, and graciously tolerated their physical play and crazy antics. I joked several times that our 9 yr old daughter thought Morgan was her boyfriend. She would always play with him and hold his hand. After one of the plays that Morgan attended at the high school with us, we were walking out, and he was holding hands with both our daughters. It made me smile. A True Example of A Real Man - Walking out of play Raquel Morgan L 300x225 - A True Example of A Real Man One time we invited Morgan to come with us to a family birthday party, which was a 45 minute drive away. I wasn’t sure if being in a car with so many kids would drive him crazy, but he decided to come along. We put a movie on in the car, “The Secret Garden,” and though it wasn’t the most current, entertaining movie on the market, everyone seemed content. We all had a great time at the family party, and Morgan seemed to fit right in. On the way home, it melted my heart to see Raquel laying her head on his shoulder on the ride home. Another time, Raquel informed me that she wanted to go to Morgan’s house to watch a Harry Potter movie. When I went to pick her up, I found her sound asleep, on Morgan’s shoulder again. Morgan knew how to make hats and scarves, and made Raquel a set. Here she is wearing the hat he made her, and showing the kids a video. She loved the hat and other gifts he gave her. A True Example of A Real Man - Raquel wearing Morgans hat 300x225 - A True Example of A Real Man I think Raquel and Morgan had a fun way of communicating with each other. She tended to be funny and sarcastic, and he probably gave some of that back to her. When prom time came, he plotted with Chloe about the best way to ask Raquel to the prom. One night, Chloe drove Raquel around our neighborhood for at least 15 minutes, listening to a song with the words “shut up and dance with me.” When she finally brought Raquel back to our home, Morgan was waiting in our driveway with roses and a poster that said, “Raquel, just shut up and dance with me!! Prom?” A True Example of A Real Man - Prom Invite Poster 300x225 - A True Example of A Real Man Raquel was elated, and spent a few days stewing about the best way to deliver a yes, answer. She finally decided on a soccer theme, since Morgan plays soccer (very well, I might add). A True Example of A Real Man - Poster for Morgan to say yes 300x225 - A True Example of A Real Man On the day of prom, Raquel, Morgan, Chloe and Chloe’s date, spent a few hours together before the dance, having a “day date.” The girls went to a thrift store and bought tank tops. They made the boys wear the tank tops around town, and again, Raquel had a wonderful time. A True Example of A Real Man - Prom Day date 300x225 - A True Example of A Real Man Honestly, how many teenage boys would be willing to wear a girl’s tank top in public?? A True Example of A Real Man - Raquel Picnic with Morgan 225x300 - A True Example of A Real Man Prom itself, was a wonderful event. When Morgan brought her home, she told Mike “It was awesome! He made me feel like a princess!” I’m so glad she enjoyed it! A True Example of A Real Man - Raquel Prom porch 300x225 - A True Example of A Real Man The following month there was another girl’s choice dance at Raquel’s high school. Again, she poured over instagram and Pinterest, searching for the cleverest way to ask Morgan to take her. Here is the poster I helped her make for the occasion. A True Example of A Real Man - Poster for Morgans Invite - A True Example of A Real Man Morgan answered by delivering a big box which read, “I’d love to go when pigs fly,” and it was full of pink helium balloons with pig faces 🙂 Again, Raquel had a fabulous time, and Morgan was nothing but a gentleman. A True Example of A Real Man - Raquel Morgan Surf boards1 300x220 - A True Example of A Real Man He always made her feel that she was pretty and loved. He would come and just hold her hand, when she couldn’t do anything else. He was always there for her.

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Morgan sitting with Raquel when she was declining in strength

After Raquel passed away, I invited Morgan over to our house to hang out with the kids. He actually babysat them while we went to the mortuary. The kids had a great time playing with him, and it just felt good to have him here. When it was time for him to leave, I gave him a big hug and thanked him for being such a dear friend to Raquel, and for helping her feel so beautiful and loved over the past months. Mike took him off alone for a moment and putting his hands on Morgan’s shoulders, expressed to him that his compassion, tenderness and kindness towards our daughter was so greatly appreciated and that he was “a great man.” I gave him this letter that Raquel had written to herself when she was 12, about the type of guy she would like to be with. A True Example of A Real Man - Raquels Letter About Best Guy - A True Example of A Real Man I think Morgan fit the bill pretty well 🙂 I have been around a lot of men in my life, and I don’t believe toughness is what makes a man, a real man. Most guys can act tough if they want to. It’s the tenderness, Christlike love, thoughtfulness and not caring about what other people think, but only about what is truly important, that makes a real man. Morgan has shown us that he is a real man, and I’m grateful for the true example he set for my children, and the sweet friend he was to Raquel when she needed it most. Thank you, Morgan, from the bottom of my heart.

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10 Comments

  • Boots Woolums

    August 4, 2015 at 5:04 pm

    WOW! You were a true blessing for her!!!!

  • Patty Brinkerhoff

    August 4, 2015 at 6:34 pm

    I have known Morgan since he was in elementary school my son and him used to play soccer together, even when he was a little boy he was always kind to everyone.I have a daughter and I always tease her and tell her that she needs to date Morgan. I know a lots of boys but for some reason he made an impression on me. I love his family they are the nicest people in town! Maybe he doesn’t even remember me but I always remember his nice smile.

    • jenni

      August 6, 2015 at 9:25 am

      Thanks for sharing that, Patty!

  • Sarah

    August 5, 2015 at 12:10 am

    May Morgan continue to love and inspire. It always lifts my heart to know that there are real men out there who know how to do what needs to be done–follow the example of Christ–and love selflessly. He must have very proud parents.

  • linda rary

    August 5, 2015 at 5:50 am

    For a teenager or a young man to have feelings that he could share is truly a gift from God, and his family, what a true story that you do not read about every day……Morgan , thank you for giving your time to help someone feel so special and to know you really did care about. so sorry for your loss but the Lord intended for you to be with her and her family . Thank You for being such a friend to the family, God certainly has plans for you to continue to be a blessing to others..

    ..

  • Ruby J

    August 5, 2015 at 9:51 am

    How wonderful. What a tender mercy of the Lord that she had such a nice guy friend!!! Thank you for sharing.

  • Maddy maxwell

    August 5, 2015 at 3:58 pm

    Morgan is one of the best you’ll ever find! He basically grew up at our house with my little brothers! He’s always been so sweet! Hard to find real men like Morgan!!

  • Lacy Robinson

    August 14, 2015 at 7:05 am

    Jenni,

    I’m so very sorry to learn of Raquel’s death. Thank you for sharing your family’s journey with everyone. I am in awe of Raquel’s strength, compassion and grace. Your devotion is truly inspirational. Please know that I have been thinking of you and your entire family.

  • Sara Broers

    November 7, 2015 at 11:14 am

    Wow…. Your family is so blessed! Thanks for sharing this with all of us.

    • jenni

      November 9, 2015 at 11:06 am

      You are welcome, Sara! Yes, we do feel richly blessed!

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